Dealing dating disappointments
Note: This article is not my work, but a compilation of a variety of articles written on the subject by various authors. These things may be happening because someone close to you has traits associated with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD).
(From the book: Stop walking on eggshells by Paul T Mason and Randi Kreger) Is someone you care about causing you a great deal of pain? Following are three true stories of people who discovered that someone they care about had the disorder.
Even when I do exactly as she asks, she gets mad at me.(Actually, each person is responsible for 50 percent of the relationship.) • The actions of the person with BPD are all about me.(The BP’s actions may have nothing to do with you.) • It’s my responsibility to solve this person’s problems, and if I don’t do it no one else will.BPD does not cause fundamentally different behaviour, but behaviour that is very far to one side of the continuum. Researchers coined the term “borderline” in the first half of this century, when they thought that people who exhibited behaviours we now associate with BPD were on the border between neurosis and psychosis.
Although this concept was discarded in the 1970’s, the name stuck.
Act impulsively in ways that are potentially self-damaging, such as spending too much, engaging in dangerous sex, fighting, gambling, abusing drugs or alcohol, reckless driving, shoplifting, or disordered eating?