Men are from mars dating
Still, on a romantic date he should always be the provider.
Perhaps the third hidden option has been 'learning the trade' while also understanding myself well enough to use the tools to get what I want, without losing the precious goal I set out to achieve. The player-esque parts of his template still rub me the wrong way, but I'm at least thinking about it with more of an open mind now. I learned that moral-spiritual rectitude and an honorable code aren't (always) enough.
By maintaining the approach of apologies and forgiveness builds further trust.